I am a mother with Cerebral Palsy, learning disability, hearing impairment and Lipoedema, who like a lot of parents with a disability has been told that they can’t look after their child.
Casualty on BBC One has been showing what life is like when you are constantly fighting all the time. You are not treated the same as everyone else they can’t see past the disability, see that you can do anything that a non-disabled person can.
I find it to heart-breaking to watch Casualty, it is like watching my life on the television. They have been showing episodes of a woman with Cerebral Palsy fighting to keep her baby, as she kept the pregnancy a secret because she already had one baby took away. The recent episode shared this Saturday 5th February 22, was the worst one when Paula went into labour, she was trying hard to show that she was a good mom, but no matter what she did social services still took her baby away. Paula didn’t even get 24 hours with her baby.
Why does life have to be like that? Why do we always have to have a label? Hopefully one day we can have a happier future and our new project Pregnancy to Parenthood can change the way people see us and see that we can be parents to our children even if we need support.
Since February 2021 Rosie Jones who is a comedian and actress has been playing Paula Kettering. Rosie herself has Cerebral Palsy and her character shows the difficulties.
Rosie said in the metro on her character: “Paula not perfect. She has flaws, she’s stubborn, the story is showing that disabled people can be three dimensional, well they are always 3 dimensional and I feel like playing Paula meant showing there are millions of disabled people who like her disability, they are underestimated and treated awfully by the services, the system and the government. This needs to change. I think it is important to know this is definitely something, that disabled moms have to go through we need to raise awareness about how there is still stigma with disabled mothers”.
Casualty also showing a character who is visually impaired that falls over while walking her guide dog to show how people have been affected by visual impairment. The character is struggling to come to terms with her lifelong companion who has been there to protect her having to retire and trying to deal with it on her own.
Everybody has in a way been affected with Covid 19. I feel as though we have been completely invisible throughout the pandemic, we were not a priority for the vaccines at first. As well as that all our care services stopped, as there was a heart-breaking story in the paper of a woman who killed her disabled son because she couldn’t cope anymore, without the support that was needed.
I think it is good that there is starting to more awareness on the TV about people with disabilities, mental health and actors with disabilities, but I still think we have a long way to go.
As said, hopefully with the Pregnancy to parenthood project we can all see a happier future. As I say, “The greatest disability of all is those who don’t treat or respect us the same as everyone else”.
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